| Click to Post a New Message!
Page [ 1 ] |
|
|
|
Kids and first loves
I want to start this by saying that everything I am about to say is real, names may be changed to protect the young.
Mr Crunch 
My son turns legal in Early June (18). Just 3 months ago he was saying that ALL woman were evil . He got his first girl friend only a week later (we remind him of this saying almost weekly). Now he dont want me to move because he wont have a convienent place to come to (besides his aunts or my moms) to see her after he goes off to college 300 miles away. I know what you are going thru with your kids first love!. We just had a strong talk about his times that he can be out till. Although he is almost 18 I still demand that he be home by 11 on weekends. That just changed to 10pm this week. If he pushes me it will be 9pm. Told him I can take the license and everything he owns away if he dont want to obey me. To my suprise he agreed. He came home at 10:15 on Sunday night (15 min late) and that was the last straw. School nights it is now 5pm!!!!! (I told him that girls will get him doing things he never would normally do) He is in honors calculus and honors AP everything else. He needs to stick to the books and he knows it but that damm testostrone is telling him different.
Here is the jist of last Sundays conversation with him. As the spring starts warming up, you will!!! be out of her neighborhood by sun down! He dont like it but knows what I am talking about. I will allow him to drop her off after sundown but only on rare occasions. (You think you have problems with your sons new girlfriend? My friend, I think we may have a competition who has more problems > My sons chicky chicky happens to live in a ghetto. I dont blame her or her mother, her mom is divorced and cant work cause of a disability so she bought a house where she could, her daughter is a very good girl. Not the worst one in town (the ghetto) but the second worse area. She happens to live next to a schools basket ball court! Not to prejudge the folk that live near this school, but its a fact that basketball courts, warm summer nights, and a ghetto is a call for serious serious trouble for a 117 pound 5'4" white boy. This scares the hell out of me. In this day and age and in this town I am talkin about you just dont go to some nieghborhoods if your caucasion, that is fact and not a rip on anyone or any place but just a fact. He needs to understand this. The schools teach a fantasy world and it is far from reality. Drug wars, gangs, and people who are NOT from the hood get hurt here and many times die. I am terrified of this (my dad was a narcotics detective in this town) I know what really goes on here. Luckily he does too (my son) because he believes me. trouble is he thinks because his car is running that he is safe. Its the "what if" that scares me. My son grew up in all pretty good neighborhoods, we moved out to the county when he was in 4th grade to escape the crap in the city. What do you do???
Fact is that if he breaks down in this hood he is in serious trouble. This is reality not some tv show. Every COP will tell you this. I hope I did not offend anyone here but the reality is what I said, this neighborhood is nothing to fool around in.
SO what do I do as a responsible parent? I hope and prey that when he gets to college (or sooner) some bombshell takes him under her wings and (well we will leave it at that) . I know and so do all us adults that this first love will pass. He does not?
Do I lay the law down and tell him that he can not be in this area after dark? The sooner I move the better. I could always pay some nice looking girl to date him? This would be hard though because his girlfriend is pretty nice looking and actually has a head on her shoulders. Thats hard to find in a guy or a girl.
|
|
 Add Photo
Bookmarks: |
|
| |
|
Kids and first loves
Ann
Sorry about that comment, I actually thought of you when typing it, figured you would (or may ) say reference to that. No thats not my attitude infront of him but we all know what I mean. She is a cutie but as others have said she will more than likely be a memory soon. I am not a fool either and have schooled him on safe sex. I even bought him protection to have (just in case). I am not encouraging it. I am not ignorant either. A 17 yr old with out protection will more than likely risk it. The talks I had with him were more like the talks I would have with a 25 yr old. No game playing and I was straight up with him.
nCrunch32
Sounds like you have your hands full. My youngest child soon to be 15 will walk in his footsteps I think. She is very opinionated and has a strong dislike for rules. We are on her like stink on!!!! Everyday. Wonder what the heck is going on sometimes (and who her father is) the other two are not like her and were raised the same way! My middle daughter is a cant do anything wrong girl. Model student, never does anything she shouldnt. respectful etc. The son is also and cant complain about him. I am lucky. Yes it is more the neighborhood I am worried about. I actually like her. She is doing a darn good job in school and has not used the lame excuse about her hood and being depresed. She goes to the same school that my other kids go to and achieves well, not great but well.
The oldest (son) has held a job now since last year and has saved $4,400 in an acount. he realizes now how expensive driving is since he just paid his second 6 month premium!
Ahhh I remember my "first love" And now that I am a parent it scares the hell out of me. Dont do as I done do as I tell you!!!!
(right! )
|
|
Add Photo
Bookmarks: |
|
| |
|
Page [ 1 ] | Thread 107096 Filter by Poster:
1 | 1 | 2 | 1 | 2 | 1 | 1 | 1 | 1 | 1 | 1 |
|
()
Picture of the Day
DennisCTB
Unanswered Questions
Active Subjects
Hot Topics
Featured Suppliers
|
Gas Generator Weather Protecti
03-01-2005, 21:38 
Digg It 
Del.icio.us